How To Be Kind When You’re Upset With Your Partner

Kindness is not just important in the heat of an argument, rather, it is about your mindful and considerate behavior throughout your relationship.

When we enter into a committed relationship, most of us make some sort of declaration? - a promise or a vow? - that we will uphold our partner and care for them. We also make a secondary promise: that we will be our best selves?, ?full of integrity and hope for a successful future.

The act of not choosing kindness is therefore doubly hurtful - to our partners and to ourselves - because it undercuts our efforts for growth and the potential for greater intimacy.

A relationship is the concerted effort of two people who mindfully and enthusiastically work towards a shared vision. Despite the difficulties of daily life, partners are in charge of their own behavior. While a couple grows together, they are not precluded from growing as individuals as well? - ?in fact they must evolve as individuals in order to continually bring their “best selves” to their partner.

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Kathleen Notes: We often don`t show our "best selves" to our spouse because we get comfortable. We expect that because they love us they will "put up with" lesser behavior. Why give your best to strangers but not your spouse?



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